About SideGuys.net
SideGuys.net exists for men who want clear, honest language about sex without anal penetration. No guilt. No mocking. No pressure to fit into a top/bottom box. If you’re a side — or you think you might be — you’re not broken and you’re not alone.
What this site is
This is an informational site about side identity and the reality that sex between men is not defined by penetration. It’s written in plain terms, with the kind of detail men actually search for when they’re trying to understand themselves or talk honestly with someone else.
You do not need to “prove” your masculinity or your orientation by doing something you don’t want. If oral, hands, grinding, rimming, toys, and touch are where you light up, that can be a complete sex life — not a warm-up for something else.
Who this site is for
SideGuys.net is for men across the spectrum: gay men who feel out of place in hookup culture, bisexual and bicurious men who are tired of being told to “pick a lane,” and straight-identified men who are surprised by attraction and want to understand it without spiraling.
It is also for married or partnered men who are trying to reconcile real desire with real life. Some men want to explore slowly — starting with touch, kissing, or a sensual massage — and they need a partner who respects boundaries and discretion. That reality is common, and it deserves clear language too.
Why this site exists
A lot of men get stuck in a false idea: that gay sex equals anal sex, and that you must be either a top or a bottom to belong. That idea creates pressure, shame, and bad experiences.
Because too many guys force themselves into things they don’t want.
Some men try to bottom because they think it’s required. Some try to top because they think it’s expected. Some do anal because they fer being rejected. If you’ve done that, you’re not weak — you’re human. But you do not have to keep doing it.
“Side” gives men a way to say what they actually want, and it gives other men a way to hear it.
Because masculinity and side sex belong in the same sentence.
A lot of men have the idea that anything sensual is “soft,” and that real sex must be hard, dominant, and penetrative. That’s a stereotype, not reality.
If you’re a man who likes men, you can be as masculine as you are — and still prefer oral, hands, grinding, touch, rimming, toys, or kink without penetration. None of that makes you less of a man.
Because closeted and married men deserve clarity, not judgment.
Many men come to this topic while married or while living a “straight” life. They may have kids, careers, and real stakes. They might want to explore slowly, privately, and carefully.
That doesn’t excuse dishonesty or reckless behavior, but it does mean the questions are real — and men deserve straight answers that don’t shame them.
Ask questions, suggest topics, or share your experience
SideGuys.net is not a dating site. It’s a place for information, language, and honest stories. If you want more coverage of a topic, tell us what you’re seeing in real life.
Good reasons to write
You do not need to write a perfect essay. A few lines is enough if it helps improve the site.
- You found something unclear and want it explained more directly.
- You have a question that should be answered in the FAQ.
- You want a new category added (dating apps, long-term relationships, health, communication, boundaries, kink, faith, etc.).
- You keep seeing the same bad takes online and want a straight answer men can point to.
Share a story (anonymous is fine)
We want to publish real experiences, because stories help men feel less alone and help normalize side sexuality. If you want to share something you lived through, you can do it without exposing your identity.
We welcome emails from gay men, bisexual men, bicurious men, straight-identified men who are exploring, and anyone who has a thoughtful perspective. You can tell us what happened, what you learned, and what you wish someone had told you earlier.
If you want your story considered for publication, say so clearly and tell us what level of anonymity you want.
How to contact the editor
Email: editor (at) sideguys (dot) net
If you prefer, you can write in plain text and keep details minimal. If you are married or closeted and discretion matters, say so. You can also tell us what you are comfortable discussing and what you are not.
Note: This site does not offer medical, legal, or mental health advice. If you need professional help, please talk to a qualified professional.
What’s next
The site will grow over time. The goal is to keep expanding the FAQ and publish more practical guidance and real stories.
Planned expansion
Over 2026, SideGuys.net may add a blog, longer essays, and a curated set of anonymous reader stories. The direction will be shaped by what men actually ask for: questions that come up repeatedly, scenarios men feel embarrassed to say out loud, and the kind of language that helps a guy communicate clearly without getting pushed.
If you have strong opinions about what should be added, email the editor. This is built for men who want straight answers.